Bouquets and Brickbats

AN INTEGRAL REWARD OF LEADERSHIP

Life has its ways of throwing the curve ball at us when we least expect it!


Sometimes it brings us bouquets and at others, brickbats! It may not mean a thing to the ordinary person. For leaders and leadership aspirants, this shift points to a serious trouble.


Imagine your story, and your photograph appearing on the first page of a noted newspaper. How many doors do you see opening up for you to take advantage of this opportunity and develop your sphere of influence? Do you identify the inherent power of business prosperity? Do you pay attention to yourself as if granted an elevation beyond most others’ approach? Sure you do! Is it an important feather in your cap? Sure it is! This example relates to a bouquet you have rightfully earned with your wisdom, your principles, and philosophy, your mastery of the superlative form of expression and so much more.


Let us now examine the opposite front. There is a well-respected author, advisor, coach, consultant, or a leader with many followers. People like to listen to him and read what he writes. Majority follows his suggestions for success in life. He enjoys an unblemished reputation until the day his tongue slips. He ends up saying, writing, or even hinting towards something below his dignity. The same words spread far-and-wide by the viral force of Social Media, and become public knowledge. How do you justify his attitude or where would you suggest he should disappear?


In the modern, dynamic society where the influence of this platform is predominant, anyone anywhere can detect a fault with your opinions, ideas, and advice. Your first responsibility as a Leader is to defeat the negative before receiving any kudos. Is it always tempting to collect bouquets? Then why not show courage in taking the brickbats with equal magnanimity?


The reason I touched upon this subject is born out of my encounters over the years. Here is one of the great ones from over 20 years ago:


I had to pull up an arrogant public speaker that claimed to be: “One of the World’s Top Success Coaches.” In my endeavor to identify logical explanations for the foregoing individual’s unexpected outburst, I singled out his success over the years as the chief culprit. He enjoyed speaking in front of large crowds. These were his easy-to-manipulate victims that spent thousands of dollars to go to the 2-3 day workshops and lectures.


This individual carried an assumptive belief that he was the Messiah for these ‘sheep’ condemned to the slaughterhouse of his big, fat bank account. His expertise lay in Real Estate Investment and that is where he used 'OPM' (Other Peoples' Money.) He harangued on his mastery of Real Estate market manipulation where unbelievable returns were the ‘norm.’ No wonder the innocent and the gullible went head over heels to invest with him for the sake of higher returns. In turn, he raised Millions of Dollars from his audience, with No Collateral and minimal risk.


The influence of wealth had reached far too deep into his head not to make any scratch on his spiritual identity. He thought nobody could dare call his bluff. He never imagined the day when he might see himself on the mat facing someone courageous enough to shake him up. Fortunately or unfortunately, that someone happened to be me.


I was one of the attendees, courtesy of a friend, in a gathering of +/-800. This success coach had his advertising team fill up large halls by extending an open invitation to all the earlier patrons. No matter whether you had paid for a seminar three months or three years ago, whenever he came to your town, he will send you two complimentary passes. Now, God Almighty is perhaps the only outsider that knows how many in this audience were genuine, paying clients since this was his 6th or 7th session of the year in Toronto, Ontario, Canada viz. predominantly English speaking.


Back to the subject of our analysis, careless talk on this individual’s part did not sit well with my group. He had just passed a scathing remark at the residents of Quebec, the very Province I called my home. It went to suggest that everybody in Quebec was poor. No doubt, the Province of Quebec is predominantly French. Not only that, due to government policies pushing French language down peoples’ throat, opportunities for the English-speaking residents are far lower and scarce. However, it does not mean the English-speaking populace has totally failed and rendered itself to general shame and ridicule. I, myself, happened to be very proud and successful. So was my extended family and hundreds of our uni-lingual friends as well.


(Believe it or not, Quebec has a government-funded agency called 'Bureau de la Langue Francaise' or the ‘Language Police,’ that measures with a tape, signs on businesses to ensure English letters are no bigger than half the size of French letters. I say this from personal experience, after residing there for well over a decade.)


There were ten persons sitting at each table. The one assigned to both I and my friend (from Ontario) had the rest of us from Quebec where there exists a general sense of racism towards the English speaking public. As we all felt hurt by the above remark from this highly acclaimed ‘Public Speaker and Success Coach,’ I took the lead in demanding an unqualified apology for the sentence he had just spoken as a passing thought. I advised him to practice prudence in language, no matter where.


At first, he refused to admit it was an irresponsible remark. However, my vehement protest forced him to get off the stage. He walked to our table and expressed regret to each one of us. I was not satisfied with this and told him in clear terms that I would settle for nothing less than a public apology in front of everyone else. Soon, he valiantly admitted his folly by taking me to the stage with him.


Once there, he openly accepted his guilt for causing us undue hurt and disrespect. It was more than embarrassing for him, no doubt. Yet, he gained enormously in prestige for showing a deep sense of maturity. Obviously, I was the first one to applaud this magnanimous action.


Readers can assume whatever they choose but the bottom line proves that his modesty enabled him to accept the brickbats without a fuss. It helped him earn ever more reverence than if he had refused to budge.


The foregoing incident teaches us to face up to our shortcomings in an intelligent way. We are mere individuals and making mistakes is our second nature. To admit them adds to both our trustworthiness and prestige while denial contributes to imminent oblivion.


The opportunity is here and now for you to decide whether you are willing to accept brickbats with as great an enthusiasm as accepting bouquets. If not, mend your attitude and watch the positive shift in your altitude!


To Your Continued Success One Step at a Time




















Sometimes it brings us bouquets and at others, brickbats! It may not mean a thing to the ordinary person. For leaders and leadership aspirants, this shift points to possible trouble.


Imagine your story, and your photograph appearing on the first page of a noted newspaper. How many doors do you see open to take advantage of this opportunity and develop your sphere of influence? Do you identify the inherent power of business prosperity? Do you pay attention to yourself as if granted an elevation beyond most others’ approach? Sure you do! Is it an important feather in your cap or not? This example relates to a bouquet.


Let us now examine the opposite front. There is a well-respected author, advisor, coach, consultant, or a leader with many followers. People like to listen to him and read what he writes. Majority follows his suggestions for success in life. He enjoys an unblemished reputation until the day his tongue slips. He ends up saying, writing, or even hinting towards something below his dignity. The same words spread far-and-wide by the viral force of Social Media, and become public knowledge. How do you justify his attitude or where would you suggest he should disappear?


In the modern, dynamic society where the influence of this platform is predominant, anyone anywhere can detect a fault with your opinions, ideas, and advice. Your first responsibility as a Leader is to defeat the negative before receiving any kudos. Is it always tempting to collect bouquets? Then why not show courage in taking the brickbats with equal magnanimity?


The reason I touched upon this subject is born out of my encounters over the years. Here is one of the great ones:


I had to pull up an arrogant public speaker that claims to be: “One of the World’s Top Success Coaches.” In my endeavor to identify logical explanations for the foregoing individual’s unexpected outburst, I singled out his success over the years as the chief culprit. He enjoyed speaking in front of crowds. These were his easy-to-manipulate victims that spent thousands of dollars to go to the 2-3 day workshops and lectures.


He carried an assumptive belief he was the Messiah for these ‘sheep’ condemned to the slaughterhouse of his big, fat bank account. His expertise lay in Real Estate Investment and that is where he used OPM (Other Peoples' Money) by giving them a better than the prevailing bank-interest returns. In turn, he raised Millions of Dollars from his audience, with No Collateral and minimal risk.


The influence of wealth had reached far too deep into his head not to make any scratch on his spiritual identity. He thought nobody could dare call his bluff. He never imagined the day when he might see himself on the mat facing someone courageous enough to shake him up. That someone turned out to be me.


I was one of the attendees, courtesy of a friend, in a gathering of +/-800. This success coach had his advertising team fill up large halls by extending an open invitation to all the earlier patrons. No matter whether you had paid for a seminar three months or three years ago, whenever he came to your town, he will send you two complimentary passes. Now, God Almighty is perhaps the only outsider that knows how many in this audience were genuine, paying clients since this was his 6th or 7th session of the year in Toronto, Ontario, Canada viz. predominantly English speaking.


Back to the subject of our analysis, careless talk on this individual’s part did not sit well with my group. He had just passed a scathing remark at the residents of the very Province we had come from.


(Believe it or not, they have a government-funded agency called 'Bureau de la Langue Francaise' or the ‘Language Police,’ that measures with a tape, signs on businesses to ensure English letters are no bigger than half the size of French letters. Naturally, the same thing reflects back to a certain degree elsewhere in Canada, not on business signs though. I say this from personal experience, after residing there for well over a decade.)


There were ten persons sitting at each table. Fortunately, or unfortunately, most of us were from Quebec where there exists a general sense of racism towards the English speaking public. I took the lead in demanding an unqualified apology for the sentence he had just spoken as a passing thought. I advised him to practice prudence in language, no matter where.


At first, he refused to respond. However, my vehement protest forced him to get off the stage. He walked to our table and expressed regret to each one of us. I was not satisfied with this and told him in clear terms that I would settle for nothing less than a public apology in front of everyone else. Then, he valiantly substantiated his remorse by taking me to the stage.


Once there, he openly accepted his guilt for causing us undue hurt and disrespect. It was more than embarrassing for him, no doubt. Yet, he gained enormously in prestige for showing a deep sense of maturity. Obviously, I was the first one to applaud this magnanimous action.


Readers can assume whatever they choose but the bottom line proves that his modesty enabled him to accept the brickbats without a fuss. It helped him earn ever more reverence than if he had refused to budge.


The foregoing incident teaches us to face up to our shortcomings in an intelligent way. We are mere individuals and making mistakes is our second nature. To admit them adds to both our trustworthiness and prestige while denial contributes to imminent oblivion.


The opportunity is here and now for you to decide whether you are willing to accept brickbats with as great an enthusiasm as accepting bouquets. If not, mend your attitude and watch the positive shift in your altitude!


To Your Continued Success One Step at a Time






















 
 
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