Communicate with Pride; Assimilate with Passion
One of the most remarkable traits of successful people is their way of communicating with others. It comprises two essential elements namely Pride and Passion. These two together can help you bring about a significant change in your entire personality.
Learn to communicate with pride because it conveys a sense of your analytical abilities so your opinion could carry more weight. One easy way to practice this skill is to exercise self–control. You need to restrain yourself from speaking loud or giving your opinion without due consideration to the context, audience, time, place and/or surroundings.
We all know that we are born with two ears, and one mouth but not many people realize the difference we can make by using these two faculties wisely. Because we have double the number of ears than the mouth, we MUST listen more and talk less. By attentively listening to the other person’s opinion, you create empathy. Just this single change in your personality can help you tremendously in pulling people rather than pushing them away.
By giving the other person a chance to finish what he or she wants to say, you are only telling them that you are sympathetic to their cause and they can trust you. How can you expect anyone to believe you if you are not willing to voice their opinion? Never, ever be in a rush to respond to anybody before he/she finishes speaking. If you did not, you would miss the gist of his or her statement. Accordingly, your response will go unheeded as premature or irresponsible.
On the other hand, once the other person has stopped talking and you heard without interruption, chances are you will be in a better position to address their questions and/or concerns in right perspective. With the help of patient listening, you have given them an opportunity to trust you. Such a simple personality trait can help you immeasurably in building bridges where none exist. Naturally, many more influential people will come closer to you in due course.
Yes, you will spend some time in the company of negative people as well, but judge for yourselves what you are presently doing if not spending most of your time with negative people anyways. The only difference is that before you never realized that they were wasting your time, but now you do. Once you know the difference, you will start getting rid of such negative influences and start building stable relationships with positive people.
We all have problems of one kind or another, but losers among us complain more often. Confident people are always passionate about things in life as they carry an aura of pride wherever they go. It is not only difficult but also virtually impossible for people with a cynical bent of mind to talk with pride and passion. If they were passionate about their beliefs, they would have positive energy oozing out at all times.
Negativity generates loneliness, which can sometimes result in depression. On the other hand, positive energy brings creativity and an urge to excel beyond the ordinary.
Your passion determines the weight your statements carry when you relate to people. The more empathy you show to others the more trust you will win. Such a simple transition will lead to an automatic rise in the number of people that appreciate your company.
The resulting change of peoples’ attitude towards you will help establish two-way communication with more progressive individuals and widen your circle.
Growing exposure to successful people around you will automatically help in attaining an elevated status in society and develop an acquaintance with more influential people in return.
The pride you feel when presenting your thoughts and/or ideas in front of others will actually help them take you a lot more seriously as you would have done your homework on your presentation already.
Once this change starts to kick in, you will begin to see a difference in your thinking related to everyday routines. You will not be wasting any more time on unnecessary chores day in and day out.
Your every move will point at your ultimate goal of attaining outstanding success. You will stop “passing” time and start investing it in meaningful pursuits. The word ‘procrastination’ will have no place in your dictionary.
Your changed approach to life in general and to relationships, in particular, will be the instrument that empowers you to earn recognition as a reliable individual from those that matter. This change, in turn, will give more weight to your ideas as well as questions, if you have any. They will feel more comfortable in your company and not cut corners from you.
These initial steps of your growing popularity will eventually bring you to a stage where your advice will carry a lot more intrinsic value. Your statements will automatically qualify to earn due respect. Your sense of pride will resonate with those lives looking for a positive change.
Remember what the wise men have always said: “your attitude determines your altitude.” The right attitude has an immense capability to foster relationships that no amount of money can ever accomplish. Yes, money does matter a lot, but it is not the sole provider of all happiness and/or accomplishments. You can never buy happiness for the long term, though temporary happiness is more accessible for the right price.
We all know happiness is a relative term and its meaning changes more often than we could care to notice. On the other hand, a proud man (or woman, for that matter) creates curiosity in the mind of the beholder as to what makes the person so proud. They want to know what makes you tick. While you will be the center of all attraction, your so-called friends from yore will be wondering how you could create a such a massive improvement in your status.
While people would continue to stay away from those who have no more challenges and aspirations left in their lives, your life is bound to attract all possible limelight.
A lesson I learned many, many years ago goes like this: “There are two types of people: one that brings happiness wherever they go and the other that brings happiness whenever they go.” It is up to you, my Dear Friends, to take your pick and decide which type of person you would like to identify with.
Assimilation means the capacity to adapt, absorb, or adjust. Once you have learned the art of assimilating with passion, it will become much more comfortable to generate goodwill and open up new avenues for yourself where none existed before.
Adaptability is the technique that helps you become more tolerant and soft in your approach towards everyone. To be able to absorb anything, you have to act like a sponge and make sure that you give some to take some. Without sacrificing a part of what you hold dear, you cannot make room for anything new to get into your system.
Whatever firm convictions and/or beliefs you hold dear, please do not let them come in the way of appreciating others’ opinions and ideas. Maybe, just maybe, you will like what others have to say differently about the same thing that you hold dear.
When you pay attention to other peoples’ ideas and/or viewpoints, or show a passion for sharing their experiences and/or suggestions, you will generate goodwill and convey an unqualified message of empathy. This is how you will inevitably project an image of a passionate listener who cares. It does not cost you a dime to make this change but will result in an incredible growth in your future prospects as well as the ensuing rise in your status at the same time.