Think Out of the Box
We hear a lot of personality-development coaches, self-help gurus and motivational speakers continually telling us to think out of the box. What exactly does the ‘box’ denote that they want us to think out of?
In simple terms, they all expound on the theory of changing the way we run our lives. In layman’s terms, we all live in a box. Some live in a bigger box whereas most others live in smaller ones. So, how do you define the size of the proverbial 'box?'
We may re-phrase the above words in an easier to understand form denoting narrow-minded or on the other hand, broadminded. Being narrow-minded, you do not accept any change in your life and firmly believe in destiny so much that you will never allow making even the slightest of a change in your daily routine.
You firmly believe that whatever you have got and/or you are getting is all predestined and no force on this earth can ever change that, under any circumstances. You have resigned yourself to fate and will not accept any suggestions to bring about a change, no matter what. You are surrendered to a state of “fear of failure.”
Your biggest fear is that any change is not going to work and hence it is not worth trying anything new. Perforce circumstances, you have forced yourself into a comfort zone that you are terrified even to try getting out of. To add fuel to the fire, you find yourself surrounded by people in the exact same state as yourself.
These so-called well-wishers are always ready to give you thousand and one reasons why your efforts to make a change will never work. They will even offer you ready-made historical examples of those who tried and failed. All these factors combined result in a wavering situation where you decide against taking a risk for fear that your failure will push you even further down.
You need to shape Y O U R destiny, a different personality, an analytical bent of mind where every thought that goes in through the ears does not land directly into your system BUT goes through a churning process where it is evaluated for its worth.
You must learn what thoughts, ideas, suggestions, advice, and/or advisors are helping you change your course to a better future and which ones are not.
Once you have brought about the above change in your conduct, you will look around yourself the same way as before, but with a different set of glasses: glasses that show you the true colors of your surroundings. You will start to see in front of your eyes the path that successful people take. You will begin to prioritize the daily chores with a focus on growth, unstinted growth.
You will begin to feel the difference between ‘spending time’ and “putting the time to great use.” The passion you show during the initial one month trial period shall become the precursor to events that unfold hereafter.
It all depends upon how proud you feel while implementing the change (and not let naysayers shoot you down) and also how persistent you are in your efforts. There will be multiple conflicting scenarios throwing curve balls at you, but persistence in your endeavor must stand in the way to stop you from dithering away from the goal you have set for yourself.
Remember, you are answerable to yourself and there better be a very sound, logical explanation in place that could help you save your self-respect in the event you succumbed to such pressures.
As a matter of fact, I am reminded of a particularly relevant story out of hundreds that my Grand Ma told me when I was a kid. It goes like this:
“In the olden days, a milkman was carrying a couple of milk cans on his bicycle for distribution to the next village while he had to stop on wayside to answer the call of nature. We are talking about the olden days when life was not even 10% as sophisticated as today. He failed to pay attention to the fact that the cover from one of his cans had come off and fallen somewhere on the way, leaving it exposed to the elements.
While the milkman was away, some frogs came across the milk cans sitting by the side of that crude passage of a road. Some of the frogs jumped into one of the cans, hoping to find something interesting. In a few minutes, the milkman came back, picked up his merchandise and went on his way. Now, all these frogs found themselves drowning in the liquid and didn’t know what to do.
However, one of them was brave enough not to compromise with the situation and started swimming desperately to find a way to get out. The other frogs thought he was just wasting his energy that he should conserve to survive. What these other frogs failed to realize was the fact that their inaction was drowning them bit by bit.
On the other hand, the frog that kept swimming had been churning the milk, without his knowledge of course, and forming layers of cream. By the time the milkman got to his destination, all the frogs had died whereas the one that kept swimming had built enough layers of cream, on top of the each other that he could quickly jump out of the can soon the bicycle stopped.”
Put your time to the most productive use, and you will be a winner, keep wasting it on the trivial things and/or chores, and you stand to miss out on the benefits this life offers us so generously.
Following these routines can help you see “the light at the end of the tunnel” that has unfortunately been turned off for most naysayers, to conserve energy.
TRY IT, WHO KNOWS YOU MIGHT LIKE IT!